What Makes a “Broken” Home Broken?An iceberg architecture can be relatively compared to the family systems. As what the iceberg framework conveys, the small portion known as the “tip of the iceberg” which is visible above the surface is somewhat similar to the family structure.
As Wei (2015) stated, “Family structure, like the term implies, refers to how everything is “set up” – whether one or two parent(s) run the home, or the number of children and other family members living in it.” Normally, people think that if a certain family does not have a father, mother, or even both parents, they usually consider that kin as a “broken” home. This family set up is what is being portrayed just like in the iceberg metaphor.
On the other hand, the large portion beneath the surface which is unnoticeable depicts the family function which “refers to how everything works” (Wei, 2015). Generally, two-parent homes are believed to be typical for the upbringing of the adolescents. While a single parent would indubitably strive more greatly with time and financial challenges than a family with both parents contributing their income together. Wei (2015) described that a child has an emotional necessity too:A recent study suggests that the happiness of a child is in fact, not contingent on an intact family structure; the researchers found that in a population of nearly 13,000 children, children from single-parent homes were no less happy than their counterparts from two-parent families (para. 6)The findings of the study indicated that the conceptuality of a “broken” home can be about the structured intactness yet intellectual and emotional fragmentation of a family. If that is the case, the family’s framework would be less significant to the adolescents’ psychological well-being than the quality of relationships within the home, albeit the parent-child kinship are compromised in quantity.
Adolescents who have an affectionate relationship even if with just one parent are likely to have better satisfaction and pleasure than those who are not having that kind of relationship. Significantly, not all families with separated parents are considered “broken”, and opposingly can be filled with love and warmth. Correspondingly, one researcher emphasized that “structurally impeccable families do not unfailingly entail healthy functioning.” (Wei, 2015) What forms a damaged family or a “broken” home goes underneath the surface, and takes place at the bottom, unseen part of the iceberg.Broken Home: The CausesParental DivorceA Research Scholar from Gauhati University in India, Saikia (2017), stated that divorce is guaranteed as the primary cause of having a broken home.
There are instances that both parents leave home, but most often either one of them does. Subsequently, it will affect the family system due the nonattendance of either or both of the parents, then the family will be considered as broken.Parental DeathSaikia (2017) also quantified that death of parent(s) is another factor which can diminish the effectiveness of the family. Unfortunately, there are some occurrence in which parental death resulted to a broken home. Though death doesn’t certainly consider as an attribute of broken home, however the death of either or both parents becomes the children’s incompleteness in part their of development.
Misconception among Family MembersAccording to Saikia (2017), aside from parental divorce and death, misconception among the family member can be develop and become the cause leading to a broken home. Engagement of any family member towards harmful objects such as drugs, alcoholic drinks and any misconduct can lead to misconception more specifically devastation and anger, which becomes the reason of breaking oneself from the family.Incompetent Supervision of ParentsFailure supervision towards the family members can lead to destroying the affiliation of the family.
When the administrator of the family most especially the parent(s) fails to supervise the members, each of the member will be given a chance to do whatever and however they want at home and even outside. If this kind of family system continuous, it will lead to a worse condition that might possibly resulted to break the family (Saikia, 2017).Parental and Friends StimulusSaikia (2017) emphasized additional cause why a family being broken up is due to the parental or friends’ persuasion. If a third person or third party became part of the exclusive matters at home, bad-mouthing will occur and misconception might possibly turn out worse. Since everyone has friendly affiliation to other people, some often used to convey their dilemmas to them. However, there can be negative impact in telling other people what one’s going through in life. The people whom they expect to aid them from a certain problem may advised an unanticipated suggestion. Most of the time, splitting up of parents is because of the stimuli made by friends and parents.
Parents’ Overseas EmploymentIn Philippines, researchers studied the consequences of parents’ overseas employment to the members of the family left behind. Commonly, the reason why some parents choose to work abroad is to provide family better living. According to Cruz (1987), Parrenas (2001), & NIRP (2001), even though having occupation abroad produces substantial advantages to the family left out, studies discovered that Filipino children who are left behind encounter psychological and emotional anxiety (as cited in Arguillas, F., Arguillas, M., & Williams, 2012). Broken Home: The EffectsSocial Well-being of AdolescentsAccording to Doughty (2008), research from the London’s government discovered that those parents who lived together offers a higher benefit than a single one to avoid adolescents from deteriorating into emotional distress and disruptive behavior. The research also revealed that those adolescents fostered by a single parent, and those engaged from parental divorce or break-up entailed to do disobedience at schools, suffer from meager health condition, involved in various crime, addiction and poverty as aged. Doughty (2008) also stated that, around year 2004, the London’s government researchers examined approximately eight thousand children with classified ages from five to sixteen and discovered that 10% of the population size endured disorders.
As the children rechecked, researchers have formulated new information and stated that an adolescent who have separated parents have a higher tendency to developed emotional illness than those parents living in unison.Green (2015) also pointed out some effects of parents separation with regards to adolescent’s social relationship. One of the effects is the children’s transgression and being involved in oppressed behavior that negatively affect peer relationships, as they are suffering from anxiety in relation to their broken home. Another effect is it makes adolescents challenging to find better social interactions and participate in progressive endeavors such as teen activities due to their burden. Psychologist Carl Pickhardt explains that adolescents from broken home might acquire negative attitude toward relationships and develop feelings of wariness to both of their parents and romantic partner (Green, 2015).Fls infut 1 here as another subheding.
Pls refer to anotation. tenchu.FamilyWEAKENED PARENT-CHILD RELACHONCHIPThe primary effect of a broken home is the deterioration of their relationship between the parent and the child. Children from broken home usually receive less support when it comes to emotional, financial assistance, and practical help from their parents unlike with the children from a complete family.
King (2002) emphasizes that trust “is strongly linked to positive parent-teen relationships regardless of parental divorce”, but children tend to have a problem about trusting their parents because of their status as a family. Children’s Early Departure from HomeChildren leave their homes because of the lack of harmony and enjoyment in the family, despite their young age.According to Frances K. Goldscheider and Calvin Goldscheider, “children whose families gained a stepparent while they were adolescents . .
. increase their odds of leaving home to marry by about 100 percent.”, which is truly happening.Ang galing