Nadia MuslehPsych 2367 Three principles of attraction that were displayed in the videoclips focusing on engaged or recently married couples are proximity, similarity,and reciprocity. The principle of proximity was evident in the short clip aboutJoe and Thos.
As Joe and Thos both met and reside in a small, suburbancommunity, as opposed to meeting and dating someone in a much further location,their relationship story displays how being physically near someone caninfluence attraction. Another couple, Neer and Deborah, are a great example of howbeing similar to another person can increase attraction. Within their clip,Neer and Deborah revealed that not only are they of the same race, but they alsohave similar levels of education, as well as similarities in interests, particularlyphysics. Finally, the principles of reciprocity is displayed within Teresa and Brandon,as both members of the couple expressed that they both had interest in oneanother, so much so that after their first interaction, Brandon’s family calledhim to express that they believed the two had “hit it off”. Ultimately, hadeither Brandon or Teresa expressed uninterest or dislike in the other, they maynot be engaged today. However, two principles ofattraction that were contradicted by the relationships stories are the ideathat some “barriers” can increase attraction, as well as that being similar in certainaspects can impact attraction. For instance, the Romeo and Juliet effectsuggests that forbidden love may increase attraction; however, the story ofHormis and Devi contradict this idea, as their family members both initiatedand supported their relationship.
Likewise, the principle of similarity suggeststhat attraction is more likely if people have similar demographics or race;yet, Joe and Thos were still attracted to one another, despite dissimilarities intheir political beliefs, their race, and even their openness with theirsexuality at the beginning of the relationship. Additionally, one principle ofattraction that was not covered that is evident in both the clips, as well as inresearch studies, is the principle of mimicry. Although “mimicking” someone mayseem to have a negative connotation, the process of mimicking someone canincrease their liking towards you. For instance, while watching Deborah andNeer’s clip, it can be seen at multiple occasions that when either member ofthe couple smiles, so does their partner; likewise, both Deborah and Neer movetheir hands when they are speaking. Furthermore, within a study conducted byTonya Chartrand and John Bargh, it was found that when confederates were taskedwith subtly mimicking the participant’s mannerisms, the participants liked themmore than participants who were paired with confederates who did not mimic them(Chartrand & Bargh, 1999).