Nadia Musleh

Psych 2367

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Three principles of attraction that were displayed in the video
clips focusing on engaged or recently married couples are proximity, similarity,
and reciprocity. The principle of proximity was evident in the short clip about
Joe and Thos. As Joe and Thos both met and reside in a small, suburban
community, as opposed to meeting and dating someone in a much further location,
their relationship story displays how being physically near someone can
influence attraction. Another couple, Neer and Deborah, are a great example of how
being similar to another person can increase attraction. Within their clip,
Neer and Deborah revealed that not only are they of the same race, but they also
have similar levels of education, as well as similarities in interests, particularly
physics. Finally, the principles of reciprocity is displayed within Teresa and Brandon,
as both members of the couple expressed that they both had interest in one
another, so much so that after their first interaction, Brandon’s family called
him to express that they believed the two had “hit it off”. Ultimately, had
either Brandon or Teresa expressed uninterest or dislike in the other, they may
not be engaged today.

            However, two principles of
attraction that were contradicted by the relationships stories are the idea
that some “barriers” can increase attraction, as well as that being similar in certain
aspects can impact attraction. For instance, the Romeo and Juliet effect
suggests that forbidden love may increase attraction; however, the story of
Hormis and Devi contradict this idea, as their family members both initiated
and supported their relationship. Likewise, the principle of similarity suggests
that attraction is more likely if people have similar demographics or race;
yet, Joe and Thos were still attracted to one another, despite dissimilarities in
their political beliefs, their race, and even their openness with their
sexuality at the beginning of the relationship.  

            Additionally, one principle of
attraction that was not covered that is evident in both the clips, as well as in
research studies, is the principle of mimicry. Although “mimicking” someone may
seem to have a negative connotation, the process of mimicking someone can
increase their liking towards you. For instance, while watching Deborah and
Neer’s clip, it can be seen at multiple occasions that when either member of
the couple smiles, so does their partner; likewise, both Deborah and Neer move
their hands when they are speaking. Furthermore, within a study conducted by
Tonya Chartrand and John Bargh, it was found that when confederates were tasked
with subtly mimicking the participant’s mannerisms, the participants liked them
more than participants who were paired with confederates who did not mimic them
(Chartrand & Bargh, 1999).



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