Running Head: Life Before To Life Now Life Before To Life Now Michelle Porter PSY 202 November 8, 2010 LIFE Life Before To Life Now As I continue to reevaluate my life and all that I had dreamed and hoped for myself when I reach my mid thirties, I did not think I would be still in school trying to get an education. Reflecting back on my past experiences and decisions I made I would have done a lot of things different.
Life seems to bring about maturity, perseverance and determination in people and I believe at this point in my life I am determined to succeed because I have been battling a college degree on and off for the past 15years. Pretty sad to admit but reality has finally set in and I have decided that enough is enough. If I want to achieve my dreams and goals in life I have got to buckle down strap in the seatbelt and make it happen. My paper will discuss my life from where I started to where I am today using a number of theories discussed in our lesson.
I grew up in a very Christian home and my mother and father was always busy taking care of things in the church. My father was military and we traveled the first couple years of my life that I can remember until my father decided to request his assignment back home in Montgomery Alabama and become part time active duty in the Army. I was very excited about this because I was tired of meeting new people and going to different schools every few years. I was always considered the baby girl in the family because my parents only had two children.
My brother is two years older than I am so he was always there to look after me and make me feel like his little sister. My parents both worked outside the home but I could remember always spending time with mother because she was there to take us to all the practices and games that we were involved in. Daddy was only available to make the games on Saturdays because he worked so long and hard during the week we did not see him until the next day while getting dress for school. LIFE By the time I fifteen years old my mother and father decided to adopt a teenager who was seventeen years of age.
This was a huge adjustment for our family especially me because I had to share everything with her. We lived in small three bedroom house and I was the one who had to give up my space and share my bedroom with her. If I was not raised in the church and taught the Christian values of life I would haven not survived being at home. I am very grateful that I was taught the values in my life that my parent has instilled in me. Looking back on things now and the way kids are raised today allow you to appreciate all the good moral values that parents instilled in children growing up.
Growing up in a very Christian based home I would have never thought that I would experience the life of divorced parents. My mother came to a very sudden decision one day that she felt that my father and she were no longer living the same standards and she was ready to move forward in her life. This was a surprise to the entire family and I it had been over ten years now and I am still heartbroken over their divorce. After my parents divorced were final I enrolled in college and was working a full time to help pay my bills.
It was during that time I meet the love of my life, Chris. Chris and I dated for one year and we decided to get married. At that time college was on hold once again because I was so wrapped up in being a new bride and enjoying my life with my husband. When I married Chris he was a Firefighter with the Montgomery Fire Department and today he actively still holds that profession. Chris has gone back to school to get his Paramedic License and he is content with his career. Our marriage had been blessed with two wonderful kids and they are truly the light of our days.
I could remember my brother and I keeping my mother busy all the times with church and sport activities and I am mimicking the same routine my mother had while LIFE raising us. My kids are very active in the church and community involvement along with sporting activities and games on the weekends. I could not imagine my life any different right now! Through our weekly discussion of Adult Development and studying Erik Erickson’s theories of development, allowed me to gain great insight to human development.
In our reading Erik points out that “adults seek to accomplish goals that make them feel they have made a difference in the world. This is the payoff stage in which we can use the personality that we’ve developed to achieve our occupational, social and personal goals. We gain a sense of fulfillment from those accomplishments but also seek additional satisfaction through mentoring younger generations. ” (Witt & Mossler, 2010, p 9). This is truly where I am in my life right now. Growing up as a child I always dreamed of becoming a doctor one day.
As I got older and became a part of numerous debate teams, student government associations groups and community advisory boards, my interest changed to law school. When I became a wife and a mother, I developed the nurturing spirit and I wanted to become a nurse. Looking back at where I was and where I am now I am seeking career satisfaction in my life. I am struggling with generatively versus stagnation. I do not feel I am useful in my career achievement and that is why I am seeking to better my education and become a mentor to children in the field of education.
My biggest task in my life right now is to continue to nurture my kids and be a good wife to my husband but my ultimate sacrifice for myself is to complete my college degree. In Erikson’s stage seven of middle aged development he summarized my goal by saying “the significant task is to perpetuate culture and transmit values of the culture through the family LIFE (taming the kids) and working to establish a stable environment. ” (Arlenet, F. Harder, 2009).
Completing my college degree is very important to me because I come from a family who did not stress education after high school and I would like my children to be able to have several choices in life and be successful in gaining a higher education after high school.
LIFE References Witt, G. A. , & Mossler, R. A. (2010). Adult development and life assessment. Retrieved from https://content. ashford. edu/AUPSY202. 10. 1 Arlenet, F. Harder, (2009). The developmental stage of Erik Erikson. Retrieved from http://www. learningplaceonline. com/stages/organize/Erikson. htm